Why Do I Need a Condolence Book

(A gentle guide to creating something lasting in a moment of real loss)
 

What is a condolence book for? 

A condolence book gives people a place to say how they feel. When someone dies, so many people want to express their sympathy, but often they don’t know how. A condolence book gives them a quiet, respectful space to do just that. At a funeral, memorial, or celebration of life, guests can pause, reflect, and write something personal. Some will write a short message — 'Thinking of you all' — while others will pour out stories, memories or funny moments that capture the spirit of the person they’ve lost.  

How do you use a condolence book? 

A condolence book is often placed at a funeral or memorial service, rested on a table for people to sign as they walk past, or more informally passed around at the wake. It is also used at home for friends and neighbours to write in, and quite often turned into a family memory project with photos, stories, sayings and letters being added to create a beautiful and personal keepsake.  

What do you do with a condolence book after the funeral? 

It becomes a comforting keepsake. In the days immediately after a funeral, life can feel like a blur. A condolence book can become an anchor — something tangible that captures the love and memories shared by others. Later, when the world feels quieter, you can open it and find comfort in reading those handwritten words. Realising how much the person meant to others can be a real help amidst your own loss. 

What's so special about handwritten words? 

In a digital age, handwritten words carry special meaning. A condolence book preserves these human touches — the curve of handwriting, the ink marks, the emotion behind each message and the time taken to record it. Reading those pages can bring immense comfort. 

Why does a beautifully made book matter? 

 A well-made condolence book isn’t just stationery; it’s an heirloom. At BeGolden, we feel strongly that your condolence book really does deserve care and attention to detail. Each of our condolence and memory books is handmade here in the UK by professional bookbinders using traditional techniques and the finest bookcloths and stock. No plastic, no ring binding, no thin paper - just excellent quality materials. Each book is then personalised via hand-printing on a traditional hot foil press with a name or message to make it truly your own - something beautiful to keep and pass on.  

How do you choose the right condolence book? 

When choosing your condolence or memory book, consider its size, colour, the material it is bound in, paper thickness, font of the writing and style. Look for thick paper that won’t smudge, covers that feel long-lasting, and we think it's really important to have the option to personalise, in a font that is fitting for the person you've lost. BeGolden’s handmade condolence books come in a variety of materials, colours, sizes, styles and 'feels' so you can get the book that truly matches the character of the person you have lost.  

So is it about creating a lasting legacy? 

A condolence book gathers memories into one place, creating a bridge between generations. The recollections captured within its pages can really bring the characteristics and deeds of a loved one powerfully back to life. Even many years after their loss, those heartfelt words can really help others understand the impact one person had on so many lives.  

Why should I choose BeGolden?  

At BeGolden, we combine traditional craftsmanship with contemporary design and a great deal of care. Each condolence or memory book is handmade in the UK by our bookbindery in Wiltshire, with real attention to detail. Our aim is to create something beautiful and lasting: a book that honours your loved one with real care. Earlier this year, we had a very kind review (scroll down to see the full review); here is a snippet: "An absolutely beautiful product, immaculately made with care and I cannot recommend BeGolden highly enough. The product came perfectly packaged and on-time despite the time pressures and I am thankful of the extra steps taken to ensure its arrival." 

In Closing  

A condolence book might seem small, but it can become an extremely meaningful belonging. If you're in two minds, explore our collection of handmade condolence books and please do feel free to reach out to us for any advice on what might suit you best - we're always very happy to help. 

Written by Bobby, on behalf of the BeGolden Team